Two Reasons I Remarried and You Should Too! Create Your Best Life!

I have married eight times. Each marriage is better than the one before. Let me explain.

Let me stipulate that those of us who are in committed relationships must always be about the business of keeping the connection fresh and growing. Why? Unless we nurture our relationships as we would a treasured garden, the relationship ceases to be special. A garden that is not regularly fertilized, weeded, trimmed, watered, and has insects removed, eventually is so far gone that it becomes an eyesore and in need of complete replacement. The same is true with your key relationship. A relationship that is not regularly recharged, renewed, cleansed of annoyances, protected from negative influences, and refocused on goals will eventually be so far gone that it will collapse under the weight of its own suffocating existence.

During a recent interview I told the reporter that success in life, in business, or in relationships is a formula. If you work the right formula correctly, you will experience great success. If you work the wrong formula, you will fail. It's just that simple.

So - does your formula include the right elements to bring you relationship bliss?

But wait! Let me get back to my marriages. My first marriage was in a church several years ago. It was great. Lots of friends were in attendance. Minister. Bachelor's party. Cake in the face. The whole nine yards.

Since then, my marriages have occurred near a Dunkin Donuts in Vermont, on the campus of Princeton University, outside a Legal Sea Foods restaurant in Boston, on a quaint side street in Hanover, New Hampshire, at a huge rest stop in Rhode Island, under a very tall flag pole in New London, Connecticut, and beside the fortress-like buildings on the campus of West Point. These marriages occur without a minister, a bachelor's party, a bunch of friends, or the expense. They are very casual.

It's time for full disclosure: I have married the same woman each time. Each marriage fits into my relationship formula.

Each of the marriages - after the first one - have been a surprise to my wife. Without warning, I will ask her if she'll marry me. She has so far said, "yes" each time. (Whew!) I then pull out my marriage vow and a camera to record the "event," and read my vow to her. We've been walking along a sidewalk, or leaving a restaurant, or standing in line for a plane when I've popped the question. The "ceremony" tends to happen right then and there.

Here's the delightful twist: Each marriage vow is written by me and is different from the other vows. My wife knows that I write each vow myself. This gives me incredible bonus points with her. It also gives me bonus points with my kids, who often witness the marriages.

Most importantly, asking my wife to marry me when it is totally unexpected, hearing her say "yes," reading my vow to her, and then, on occasion, having my kids as witnesses is a powerful affirmation of our relationship, serving to recharge and renew the life we are building together.

Recharge and Renew. Those are two of the reasons that I remarry.

Why are recharging and renewing necessary? Because maneuvering through this thing called "life" can sap the energy out of even the best relationships. If you don't take the initiative to infuse your relationship with freshness, you will probably find yourselves growing apart and becoming strangers who happen to live together.

My goal is to remarry my wife 1,000 times. What about you?

Remember - You DO deserve to live a great life.

Enjoy Life!